(Note: I wrote this after not sleeping for a few days, which happens to me periodically, and maybe partially explains some of my irritability at times. However, I waited until I had more clarity and less anxiety, and felt the following was still an accurate snapshot of what my anxiety feels like. Writing helps me … More Category is…Anxiety.
Happy 11th Anniversary Bunil! It seems less odd to be self-congratulatory when you use your combined moniker, but f*ck it – I am happy/proud/delighted to have arrived at another year of togetherness. While this year won’t quite pack the same punch as last year’s 10 year extravaganza, where we traversed across India for three weeks … More 11 Pipers Piping
The start of my 37th year can best be encapsulated by the duality of: A) Disabling my Facebook feed, avoiding most human interaction, and not leaving my apartment on the actual day of… B) And subsequently heading to Key West over Labor Day and partaking in the repeated cyclical bacchanalia that I somehow gravitate toward. … More Masc 4 Monarch
(Note: I wrote most of this previously during a low moment, so I was going to refrain from posting, for fear that it would set off alarm bells. But then that defeats the purpose of this entire exercise. Ebbs and flows.) Another year, another June, another season of Pride. Beyond the rainbows and excess, I … More Honesty.
I’ve recently reacquainted myself with the joys of being a card-carrying public library member. Not only is my local branch a pleasant stroll from Casa de Bunil, the staff are pleasant, the space is clean and conducive to reading, and it’s got all of these fantastic ancillary offerings (free museum passes, job training, a mini-art … More Book It! To Me Good
My thoughts on what the Yelp story, and Ms. Virginia McLaurin, can teach us about privilege and empathy. (And how you can never escape from Auntys.) … More Privilege and Empathy: From Yelp to Help
I find myself pondering three ideas lately. Why is there not a Bollywood version of The Wizard of Oz/The Wiz? (A.R. Rahman, get on this boo.) Being Exceptional/Ordinary Failure The first, clearly needs to happen. I haven’t felt as strongly about a sentiment since a recent trip to Costco when I advocated for buying the … More Failing Forward Into the New Year
Happy Diwali/Deepavali! I can’t say that I’m a devout Hindu, but I enjoy lighting a few diyas (aka Ikea tea lights) under our Ganesha statue on this day. To a purist, I’m probably more religious than Jews that have only seen a temple during High Holidays, but less fervent than the Christians in a pew every … More The Light
I’ve encountered a few articles recently regarding racial preferences and dating within the gay community, although I think many of the themes are salient irrespective of sexual orientation. It’s a topic that seems to get folks riled up, one way or the other. To some, racial preferences and racism are one and the same. To others, … More The Revolution Will Not Be Televised